The blog “Do You Have a Bolshie Bully in Your Life? How You Respond to Her Negative Behavior May Be Out of Your Control” addresses female-to-female rivalry and bullying behaviors and why you may respond the way you do.
Rivalry and bullying types of behavior have the same effect on the victim and perpetrator. In both types of behavior, the victim feels powerless, intimidated and out of control. Additionally, it is not uncommon if you are bodily attacked, or feel verbally attacked or bullied, that your brain will take over and you physically freeze; and cannot respond as you normally would. Victim blaming, in which you believe you are partially to blame for the negative behavior, may also occur.
Having an understanding and awareness about the long-term ramifications and impacts of the negative behavior, and how to move on is key to finding your passion, your to be. And ultimately know, while experiences may shape who you are, they do not own you.
You already are, it’s time to be.