Are You Passionate About What You Do, or Are You A Quitter?

Are You Passionate About What You Do, or Are You A Quitter?

Keep going.
Because you did 
NOT
Come this far,
Just to come this far
.”

As I write my last blog for 2018 I’ve been reflecting about this past year…. 

I am grateful. Grateful for finding my path, passion, purpose and sticking to my plan. I am grateful for what I have attained and what the future looks like, on this to be path of mine. 

 I may not yet be to where I want to be but I did not come this far, just to come this far. I am pushing forward and I am excited about it. 

I’ve frequently found this past year that when I am right in the thick of trying to reach my goals, it feels as though my wheels are spinning. This sensation has led me to focus on not seeking immediate gratification right after a task has been completed. Instead, I try to take time to pause... After my head has cleared, I can then look back to reflect upon what has truly been achieved. It is through this lens I am able to reflect and be honest and vulnerable about what I have achieved, or not. 

I find when I look back… I can see that the little things do add up. They add up to big things, and those things are called accomplishments. Pausing also allows me to appreciate my efforts to see through the chaos. Thinking about my accomplishments makes me happy that I persevered. That even when I became frustrated I carried on. Starting a new business is not easy but I did not quit.

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A friend and I were talking the other day about why people give up on their dreams. If it is something they are truly passionate about, why do they quit? A lot of it boils down to people listening to the negative voice in their head. I call that the “self-doubters”.

Are you passionate about what you do? In your work, your extracurricular activities, your social and family life? We all have to make money to live but often that “job” or “work” is not always something we are totally enamored with. Money is usually the driver. It’s what we need to make ends meet, to simply get by. 

But if money were no object and you had the opportunity to do what you were passionate about… WOULD YOU ACTUALLY DO IT?

A LinkedIn article recently addressed this topic of people quitting and giving up on their dreams:
1)    They lose the belief of it being possible 
2)   They get bored with the repetitiveness
3)   They don’t see the results quickly enough
4)   They listen to others’ advice
5)   They fear what it involved

So, yes, if you don’t have instant, promising results it’s easy to lose belief in yourself and your dream. Patience is key. The routine can be repetitive and boring. Consistency will always show you end results, but you have to be in it for the long haul. This means hard work, perseverance, patience, sacrifice… If you can’t commit to hard work, is it truly your passion? 

It is easy to be persuaded by others, especially if they do not have a clear idea of your vision. Follow your whisper and stick to your gut instinct. There will always be unknown outcomes. But fear can motivate you and push you forward.

Steve Jobs, Apple founder, referenced this topic: "People say you have to have a lot of passion for what you're doing and it's totally true. It's really hard. And you have to do it over a sustained period of time. So, if you don't love it, if you're not having fun doing it... you're going to give up. And that's what happens to most people, actually."
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People often get bored or impatient when their endeavor takes too long to be successful, so they give up. When the momentum wanes and the self-doubters kick in, it’s easy to lose motivation. 

Rome wasn’t built in a day. Workers were laying bricks every hour. An athlete does not just walk onto a track and win a gold ribbon. She trains and practices daily, often for years at a time. A tree does not bear fruit overnight. It takes seasons and sometimes years to mature. You get the point: Important things take time. If you really want to do something you are passionate about to follow your path, you won’t give up no matter what. If you are not truly passionate about it, you will find an excuse to quit.

I admit, I can get very impatient at times with how my dream is progressing. But do I think about giving up? No. That simply is not an option for me. Ultimately, I am totally jazzed about what I am doing and, in my gut, feel this is the right path for me to be on. I do think about ways I can execute things differently to have better results. But each step in this process is an important one for me to be able to grow and develop naturally. All of the steps are pieces of the pie that make it a whole. If some steps are skipped, I’ll be missing out on part of the process, and I don’t want to do that. 

Courtney Peppernell sums it up perfectly: “You can’t skip chapters, that’s not how life works. You have to read every line, meet every character. You won’t enjoy all of it. Hell, some chapters will make you cry for weeks. You will read things you don’t want to read, you will have moments when you don’t want the pages to end. But you have to keep going. Stories keep the world revolving. Live yours, don’t miss out.”

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Implementing purposeful change is hard. I wrote about this exact subject in my blog this past September, “If It Doesn’t Challenge You, It Doesn’t Change You.” 

 Since October 1st, I’ve been participating in the Rachel Hollis #Last90Days challenge. Her provocation was, “What if you committed to living your last 90 days of this year as hard as you are committing to living the first 30 days of the new year? What if instead of a downhill slide into 2019, you are ramping up!” 

For my #Last90Days challenge I committed to getting up early before my kids went to school and working out a minimum of 3x per week. And prior to a week ago, when I slipped on the ice and now have a concussion, I reached every weekly goal and did not quit. I may not have gotten up at 5:00am every morning like I’d originally intended but before my head hit the pillow at night, I worked out at least 45 minutes. The doctor ordered me to stop working out until my noggin is healed, but prior to that, I frequently exceeded 3x per week.  

“Why?” you may ask, is this a big deal? Three immediate reasons come to mind:
1.     I am back in shape.
2.    I changed a habit.
3.     I did not quit.

My thought with my exercise commitment is, if I can follow through with working out and adhere to that plan, I can follow through with other goals too. This is simply a stepping stone for other things I’ll accomplish.

You have a choice to quit. You have a choice to stay on the path you are meant to be on. You have the choice to be happy – but only you are in charge of that outcome. No person, place or thing will make you happy until you decide you want it. Your happiness can only come from you, not to you.

As 2018 comes to a close and you ponder over this past year…. 
Are you happy? Are you living the life you want to live? Have you found your path, passion and purpose? Do you have a plan?

Do you follow through with things you started? Are you passionate about what you do, or are you a quitter?

If you want to change your path to follow your dream, I can help you with that. Ask Me How. I’d love to hear from you!

Email me at amber@tobecoachingandconsulting.com

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