You Do You and Don’t Judge Me! It’s Time to Bridge the Great Divide. Part II: Women Who by Choice, Do Not Have Children.

The blog, “You Do You and Don’t Judge Me! It’s Time to Bridge the Great Divide” is part 2 in a 3-part series. Part I discussed the on-going battle between stay at home moms (SAHM) versus moms who work outside of the home. This blog talks specifically, about women who by choice, do not have children. 

Unless you’ve experienced it personally, this may not be a type of female rivalry that you’ve been subject to. You may not even be consciously aware that it exists… It does. And for a certain population of women, it is a behavior that can be pretty intense, cruel even. Especially, if you’re on the receiving end. 

I chose to highlight awareness on this specific rivalry because it stems from assumptions. It is a judgment that most frequently comes from one female to another, the projection of unwanted opinions and criticism. It’s about being judged for a lifestyle because it is different than hers is. They key one is, a female is doing the world a disservice by choosing not to procreate. 

This heart of this particular topic is about a lack of understanding. There are so many pressures women face on a daily basis exclusive to females… With these unrelenting societal restraints why do we then, continue as women to add to that pressure by judging and not being supportive of one another, when and where we need it most? 

Life is hard enough on its own without adding additional pressure or things to be worried about. The rivalry is there. It’s time we change the perception.  You already are. It’s time to be.

You Do You and Don’t Judge Me! It’s Time to Bridge the Great Divide Between Women. Part I: Stay at Home Moms (SAHM) vs. Working Moms

The blog, “You Do You and Don’t Judge Me! It’s Time to Bridge the Great Divide Between Women” is the first in a 3-part series. This first blog discusses the on-going battle between stay at home moms (SAHM) versus moms who work outside of the home. 

Motherhood has become a venue for resentment and guilt. There is a lot of judging and feelings of entitlement, to criticize how other females undertake parenting all because someone else is approaching it differently than how she is. 

This rivalry is about two groups of women who frequently, misunderstand and envy each other. It can be very cut-throat. Often the misinterpretation is based upon labels versus actually taking the time, to get to know one another as real women... In this day and age, this rivalry should be behind us. 

Until you’ve walked in her shoes, it is so important to not judge what or how she is doing it. What she is doing is harder than you know. Life is hard enough on its own without adding additional pressure or things to be worried about.

The rivalry is there and clearly, exists on both sides. It’s time we change the perception. You already are. It’s time to be.

Are You Being True To You? It's Not Too Late To Be Who You Wanted To Be.

The blog, “Are You Being True To You? It’s Not Too Late TO Be Who You Wanted TO Be,” talks about your authentic self, that little girl inside of you – the one who is a constant and who has always been with you. Along the way on this path of life, it can be easy to alter off course, misplace your voice, lose your passion…. Are you being true to her? Are you on the path you thought you’d be on?  

Even if you did take a detour, or lose your way…, the trials, tribulations, and hard lessons learned, can make you stronger.  It’s never too late to be who you might have been, because you are the writer of your own story. 

Do You Have a Bolshie Bully in Your Life? How You Respond to Her Negative Behavior May Be Out of Your Control.

The blog “Do You Have a Bolshie Bully in Your Life? How You Respond to Her Negative Behavior May Be Out of Your Control” addresses female-to-female rivalry and bullying behaviors and why you may respond the way you do.

Rivalry and bullying types of behavior have the same effect on the victim and perpetrator. In both types of behavior, the victim feels powerless, intimidated and out of control. Additionally, it is not uncommon if you are bodily attacked, or feel verbally attacked or bullied, that your brain will take over and you physically freeze; and cannot respond as you normally would. Victim blaming, in which you believe you are partially to blame for the negative behavior, may also occur. 

Having an understanding and awareness about the long-term ramifications and impacts of the negative behavior, and how to move on is key to finding your passion, your to be. And ultimately know, while experiences may shape who you are, they do not own you.

You already are, it’s time to be.

And The Trouble Is If You Don’t Risk Anything You Risk More. Are You Fearless in the Pursuit of What Sets Your Soul on Fire?

The blog, “And The Trouble Is If You Don’t Risk Anything You Risk More. Are You Fearless in the Pursuit of What Sets Your Soul on Fire?” talks about fear. The author compares off-road jeeping to similar feelings she experienced when starting her own business. 

Obstacles on the trail can be looked at as roadblocks, things to be scared of that prohibit you from moving forward. They can also be looked at as opportunities, or things that push you to be fearless, and enable progress. As there is fear on the trail, there is also fear in life. Your personal mindset can make or break you. It can make a difference in your ability to grow and develop, it can also hold you back. 

Mark Twain said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not the absence of fear.” If you don’t risk anything, by not facing up to your fear, you risk more. Playing it safe is where your dreams go to die. What are you doing to prevent that? How are you being fearless, personally or professionally, in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire?  

Strong Women Raise Strong Girls. Does Your Message Mirror You?

The blog, “Strong Women Raise Strong Girls. Does Your Message Mirror You?”  dives into the topic of strong women raising strong girls. At times it can feel like a weight of responsibility… raising a young daughter to become a confident, courageous, strong, kind, independent, fierce, brave, adult female. And while there will always be unexpected hurdles to cross, so much of the foundation comes from what is modeled at home. As a strong woman, a mother or someone who is a role-model to a little girl, what does your behavior say about you? What example are you setting for your daughter to empower her to grow into a strong woman? 

The Antonym of Female Rivalry is the Female Sisterhood. Who’s in Your Circle?

The blog post, “The Antonym of Female Rivalry is the Female Sisterhood. Who’s in Your Circle?” references the negative side of female rivalry and the fact that it exists everywhere, everyday. The antonym of rivalry between women, the favorable side to this negative behavior is the Female Sisterhood, often called a circle, tribe, or squad. The female sisterhood is female friendships that work. It’s relationships in which women help each other belong to themselves. Rivalry between women deprives women of female colleagues and companionship. It prevents women from relying on their natural allies, each other. We have to raise each other up and reverse the stereotype that women do not support each other. Collaboration versus competition, is the ticket to do so.  

Do You Have a Fixed or a Growth Mindset? You Are Who You Choose To Be.

The blog, “Do You Have a Fixed or a Growth Mindset? You Are Who You Choose To Be” references that the mindset you have makes a difference in your ability to grow and develop. A person with a fixed mindset will concentrate on replicating what they know. A person with a growth mindset will concentrate on improving how they do what they do. An individual with a growth mindset will embrace challenges and have the desire to learn. They believe they can develop any ability even if there are setbacks, it just takes perseverance, dedication and hard work.

Do You Instill the Same Type of Grace for Yourself, As You Do for Others?

The blog “Do You Instill The Same Type Of Grace For Yourself, As You Do For Others?, references that it is ok for you to hit the pause button when you are feeling overwhelmed. No matter your intentions, things happen that frequently put a kink into well-laid-out plans. Giving yourself the same type of grace that you do for others, lets you learn, pause and take time to get through it. 

How Does Your Garden Grow? Are You A Constant Gardener Or Do You Vary With The Seasons?

The blog post, “How Does Your Garden Grow? Are You a Constant Gardener or Do You Vary With the Seasons?” references the steps and process of tending a garden. Gardening is a timely planned operation, something that happens season by season, year by year. Nurturing personal and professional growth is just like cultivating a garden. The moments in time are the seasons.

Growth does not occur on its own. It takes determination and hard work. It is important to make a plan and follow a path to mindful development, then you can grow what you want – you can grow flowers, not weeds.  

Are You Passionate About What You Do, or Are You A Quitter?

The blog, “Are You Passionate About What You Do, or Are You A Quitter?” talks about the ability to define a plan, and stick to it. Many times people quit because they are bored, or do not see immediate results. Purposeful change is hard, results are often slow, but quitting is not an option. If you want to be happy, to find your passion, path, purpose and your true to be, you must stick to your plan.

It Takes Courage To Be Who You Really Are: Are You Being True, To You?

The blog, “It Takes Courage To Be Who You Really Are: Are You Being True To You?” talks about the ability to stay true to your inner self.  Who you truly are as a person exists in your core, and staying true to who you are is a long-term-life exercise. You have to listen to your inner voice to stay on your true path as outside noise can cause you to take a detour.